Fear, he said to me was only a form of anger. Fear, was also what eventually turned into hatred. Fear is what damages any relationship, even the one we have with ourselves.
Have you ever wondered about all the things you do simply because of fear? You all have been living out of fear. Your relationships are out of fear. Fear is so overwhelming – like a dark cloud covering your life – that you say things which you don’t want to say, but fear makes you say them. You do things which you do not want to do, but fear makes you do them.
fear (n)- An unpleasant emotion caused by danger, pain or harm.
It makes it possible to love someone, you actually are better without. It makes it possible to be in a place you really should not. It makes you do all the things you never wanted yourself to do. Fear is so powerful, that it can even make you feel like all those things you did were out of love and not fear. It consumes you, decides your actions and even controls your thoughts.
Haven’t we heard stories of people going to lengths only in the fear of losing someone. Lies, betrayal, anger, cheating, running away are all taking over our lives because of the fear of being hurt, fear of not winning, fear of not being accepted. Getting that bizarre haircut or tattoo, eating at that fancy place, dressing a certain way or trying to like a certain thing, it’s what we all did or still do in the fear of acceptance.
We fear that we’ll lose out on something better and hence don’t value where we are right now. Or the people we are with right now. And sometimes or rather most of the times we do the opposite of that. We fear tht we might never find someone better and that’s why we kill ourself trying to be someone we are not, just to maintain this fake peace. This fake relationship. Everybody you have come in contact with has been imposing fear on you, because fear is the antithesis of freedom. The more fear you have in you, the less is the possibility of freedom. The more fear is there, the less is the possibility of rebellion
The things we love most, the things we enjoy most are the only things we are not afraid of. Shift to the paradigm of love. Shut down the paradigm of fear. Focus on what you want and not what you don’t want. When you are asked not to think of a pink elephant, what do you do?, you think of a pink elephant. That’s exactly how the paradigm of fear works, you focus on what you don’t want and land up getting exactly that. If you constantly remind yourself how badly you don’t want to piss off someone you love, it will invariably happen. They will be pissed off and pin the fault on you. You operated from the paradigm of fear. If you would only focus on having a happy day, there are higher chances that you do.
Fear makes you not believe your inner voice, it changes you, makes you somebody you are not really proud of. Don’t let it take over your life. Move out of parasitic relationships, messy jobs and unhappy places. Be someone you’d fall in love with. Someone loving and joyful, not fearing and stressful.
And when you’ve done that, don’t forget to get someone else out of the fear spiral too. Stay fearless. Stay Jugni.
As Osho said,
“Don’t follow your fear instinct, because that is going to make you a coward. It degrades your humanity. It is a humiliation imposed by yourself. Whenever you see some fear, go against it! A simple criterion: whenever you see there is fear, go against it and you will be always moving, growing, expanding, coming closer to the moment when ego simply drops – because its whole functioning is through fear. And the absence of the ego is enlightenment; it is not something plus.
“Just a simple principle: remember, anything that makes you afraid, fearful, is a clear indication of what you have to do. You have to do just the opposite. You are not to become a follower of fear, you have to fight your fear. The moment you decide to fight your fear, you are on the way towards enlightenment.”